MY SAFE HAVEN

While going back felt like a stranger, it was land that felt all too familiar to me,  my safe-haven, my comfort zone, a place were I was never ruffled, where I was smoothly clothed with a silky wool like a new born babe, wrapped in my forever land,never to be awaken by the harsh realities of Life. 

Here I was snatched away from my dreamy sleep, like a new born babe that was taken away from the sweet loving arms of her mother.Awed and wide-eyed my reality shone like the morning sun, but this time it wasn't welcomed, tossed and turned by the tempest of life, gruesomely I  endured the loss of friends and family, I clinged to the never satisfying jobs. 

My safe -haven was lost,pushed away beyond my reach, oh! How I longed for you safe-haven! Come back to me and take me to a place where my peace can be found.

ARE NIGERIANS TRULY HAPPY PEOPLE?

We all know the popular saying that says that Nigerians are the happiest people on earth, but how true is this? Are we truly happy, can we boldly say we are happy people, is there true joy in the face of the hardship and poverty that stares us in the face, how much joy we have with so much unemployment, so much insecurity and fear of what tomorrow will bring?

How many souls have we lost to terrorism, bad roads, inadequate health care facilities, all these woes lays at our fate on a daily bases and we have to embrace it because we have nowhere else to go, after all Nigeria is our home, will there ever be light at the end of the tunnel for Nigerians, are we ever going to be truly happy people again? How many of us have had to go to bed at night and think if things were different ,if the system worked well enough, I would not have to lose a loved one to insecurity, bad roads, lack of proper health care, or even the ability to put food on our tables .

the great writer Dele Momodu said about us, we have developed thick such skins that nothing moves us as long as the catastrophe has not touched his directly, so Nigerians, is it until there is no one else left before our change will come? Where is the Nigerian spirit known all over the world for thriving even in most difficult situations? Maybe where our strength lies is where are weakness also reside, our ability to swallow any bitter pill has made us immune to terrible conditions

When is the wind of change going to blow and liberate my people? When is this vicious cycle going to end? Are Nigerians truly happy people? These and more are my thought about the plight of Nigeria.

DON’T SIGN YOUR DEATH WARRANT BY SIGNING THE DOTTED LINE-WATCH WHO YOU MARRY!

Its amazing how a relationship starts with so much love and ends up in disaster ,it is true that women are emotional and commit easily but at this point it is important for every woman to commit and to be emotional toward the right man, this is very tricky because right can turn out to be wrong sometimes, that is why a lot of woman get entangled in abusive relationships, abuse can be physical and emotions, but whatever it is ,the scars runs deep within the victim making her vulnerable and deeply hurt.

A woman is meant to be loved and treasured by her man, she is meant to be his help mate, but in so many cases like the ones we see in our society these days, the woman is turned into a physically tortured soul. Some out of love for their children stay in these marriages, hoping that one day the abuser will go back to his loving self, but this rarely happens, and she continues to fight for her life, she is stripped of her self–esteem and left with nothing but shame.

But there is hope for the battered woman, if she can rise above her fears, if she will summon enough strength to say enough is enough! If she will take a long look at her life and realize that she doesn’t want her children to wake up one day and say “why did mum suffer in silence, why didn’t she seek help? If she had done all these she would have been here with us”.

And this is to the society, women should not be encouraged or advised to stay in abusive relationships, it kills the soul, it is true that we can be very religious and sentimental, we tend to shy away from the truth, when a relationship or marriage becomes life threatening, the woman’s life comes first…we should also be our brothers keeper, when our neighbor or someone we know is being abused we should be concerned, we can give an anonymous tip to the police.

On a final note, it is true that a woman can be close-minded when love is at stake, we must watch who we say I do to, women! Don’t sign your death warrant by signing the dotted line.

Olaleye Taiwo

"COMMITPHOBIA"

HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED WHY IT IS EASIER FOR A WOMAN TO COMMIT THAN FOR A MAN TO COMMIT,IT IS LIKE OUR MEN ARE PLAGUED WITH "COMITPHOBIA",MEN ARE VERY SPECIAL CREATURES ,ALWAYS WILLING TO REACH OUT AND GIVE ALL BUT WHEN THEY SMELL COMMITMENT THEY RUN FOR DEAR LIFE.

IT IS AMAZING HOW THEY DO IT,ONE MINUTE THEY HANG ON TO A LADY FOR DEAR LIFE AND THE NEXT THEY ARE NOWHERE TO BE FOUND,I REMEMBER A BOOK I READ TITLED' MEN ARE FROM MARS ,WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS.A MAN USES HIS ENERGY AND RESOURCES TO WOO A LADY ,AND THE MINUTE SHE LETS HER GUARDS DOWN HE LOSES INTEREST, I REALLY WANT TO KNOW WHAT GOES ON IN THE MINDS OF THESE MEN,SERIOUSLY, AM BAFFLED.

LIFE IS LIKE A RACE

A RACE CALLED "ERE IJE" IN MY MOTHER TONGUE MAKES LIFE EASIER TO DESCRIBE.

THERE ARE TIMES YOU RUN AHEAD WHILE OTHERS TAG ALONG,AND TIMES WHERE YOU ARE BEHIND,IT IS WHEN YOU ARE BEHIND THAT IS MORE DIFFICULT

YOU TRY HARD TO CATCH UP WITH THOSE YOU STARTED THE RACE WITH AND SOMETIMES,THERE IS AN OBSTACLE ON THE WAY YOU CANT JUST SEEM TO MOVE AHEAD OF IT,MAKING IT IMPOSSIBLE FOR YOU TO MOVE,YOU FEEL TRAPPED ,GASPING FOR BREATH AND STILL HOPING,JUST HOPING THAT MAYBE YOU CAN STILL CATCH UP WITH OTHERS,SOMETIMES YOU WIN THE RACE,SOMETIMES YOU DONT.

730 days ago

730 days you walked into my life and made all the difference,

you came in when i least expected and you were someone i never even thought was going to last,yet i held my breath and i hoped for the best,

and you have being there all along always holding my hand and cheering me on ,

telling me all will be well,even when i feel choked and am gasping for air ,you have helped me breath.Indeed you are my best friend,and you have made all the difference.Thank you

butterflies in my stomach

Yesterday was just like any other day for me,it was suppose to be a normal day with no stress,but here i am at the moment feeling all the anxiety in the world,am going to sing in front of a crowd tomorrow,i really cannot believe it,it is amazing how you don't plan for things and they just happen,well to tomorrow is the day,i get to sing in front of people for twenty minutes!

The butterflies is my stomach wont just let me breath ,i feel so scared!.........................somebody please help me before i faint.lol